I SEE COLOR! And I think it is very important to recognize that one's skin color, sexual orientation, gender, and many other things affect our perspective. That means we all have different perspectives. Perspective taking is key to being able to offer empathy, acceptance and forgiveness. If we ignore color then we cannot engage in common humanity which pushes us into victim thinking and defense mode. Without common humanity we also lose our own self compassion. Compassion for others leads to compassion for self. Compassion for anger as well as pain.